The Big Why

Buddies - Bolder and Pablo

Bolder's cancer is back. He's my sis Cindy's husband (real name Brian) - age 59 and he battled aggressive prostate cancer last year through early this spring. It was rough - surgery, chemo, radiation. There were lots of ups and many downs. But in the end, his PSA, the test they do to see if the cancer is gone, came back good! We were happy.

The Lefebvres went big last summer - traveling to Vegas for their friends renewal of vows celebration. Elvis married Bonnie and Eric with Bolder and Cindo along side. Their son Colby was there too.

Then our great trip to Cannon Beach - we all had a fantastic time. Bold and Cindo got the Master Suite in the beautiful house near the beach and were in hog heaven. Boldie even brought out the pope hat to help celebrate Betsy's 50th birthday. He got to know the wait staff at the local bar, which he loves doing. And they all love him! Paul even shared his martinis. Later he took us to a cool bar in Portland with a frost strip to keep our drinks chilled.

In August, the Lefebvres went back to Massachusetts to Bolder's niece's wedding. Cindo said that was a super trip too - they got to see Boldie's mom Claire who is in her mid 80's, and his bro. They love the food back there, and it's fun for Bold to return to his home.

Amy and some friends were just up in Vail a couple weekends ago, and had a great time. The Lefebvres are such great entertainers. Then Bolder had a checkup, and though his PSA levels still look great, some blood results caused the docs to order CAT and bone scans. The results were bad. He has cancer in his liver and several areas in his bones.

I'm beside myself. How does this happen? Why?

Now he has another fight on his hands. Their community is rallying around them, as friends do. Our family is waiting to figure out just what we can do. Because that's what fams do. For now - I just hurt, and pray. And send vibes their way. I ask for your help on that.

Thank you.