Showing posts with label Walnut Woods. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Walnut Woods. Show all posts

Sunday, December 3, 2017

Patrick - 26


Paul and I took a walk at Walnut Woods State Park today to celebrate our son, Patrick's birthday - December 2, 1991. He only lived six days due to a heart defect, hypoplastic left ventricle. While he's not been an active part of our lives since his birth, he made a definite impact.

Losing Patrick put me into a tailspin. Until then, my life was a breeze. Childhood, college, job, marriage, two healthy children (girl, boy). Except for a previous miscarriage, not much had gone wrong in my life. When one's life is like that, you don't expect things to go wrong. Boy did it!

When Patrick died, people reached out and supported our family. That was one lesson I learned from that experience - the humility of accepting that support. Grieving was extremely hard work - especially with a six and three-year-old at home, needing our care. It hurts now thinking back on that time in my life. I feel bad for that young woman that was me. And for all parents and families that have lost children.

My beliefs and political persuasion changed after we lost our son. While I can't say these changes are a direct result of Patrick, he is a part of me.  As the years go by the pain of loss eases. Every once in a while the scar of grief rips open and I feel the sadness of what we have missed out on. Today we celebrate Patrick's birthday. Never forgotten.

It was a beautiful day today. No wind and sunny with a temperature of about 60 degrees. Walnut Woods is a beautiful park, full of hardwood trees. We started hiking by a bird blind, spying several species. My phone camera didn't pick them up, however. The Raccoon River is quite low, likely due to the lack of rain this year. The year Patrick was born we had a big snowstorm Halloween weekend, but this year, no such thing! I hope you too are enjoying this weekend. Thanks for your support through the years.


 

Friday, November 8, 2013

What style leader are you?


Last week - on Halloween Day, no less, everyone in our Bureau at work attended a retreat at Walnut Woods - a state park located on the Southwest side of Des Moines. Because it's like pulling teeth to have catered meals at such events - our bosses don't want to see the next Des Moines Register be "Taxpayers foot the bill for state employee lunches".

Our new boss, Alex got creative - a soup and dessert contest! I took Chicken Noodle, using a HyVee roasted chicken and frozen noodles. It was good. There was a late plea for soup sign ups, and it must have worked, because we had plenty for the group of about 50. A couple chilis, veggie with beef, another chicken noodle with real homemade noodles. I even had squash soup - not quite as good as my pal Julia's recipe. The desserts were fab - scary fattening and scary themes. Former bureau chief Brian Tormey stopped by to help with the judging - so nice to see him! Creston's Bill Ehm, the Bureau's Division Administrator, was also there for part of the day.

We did a session on customer service first thing. You may now picture me answering the phone with a smile on my face. (insert goofy smile here). We are public servants - and I thought it was a good reminder - regarding outside customers, and internal ones. We tend to forget that our co-workers are customers too. Michelle Wilson, who grew up as the daughter of a DNR wildlife guy somewhere in Southwest Iowa, was the speaker for this session. She was good.

The next speaker is working on her PhD at Drake. She was tasked with helped our bureau work through some things that haven't ranked high on our annual survey. She first wanted to help us determine what type of leaders we are. She uses Lee Bolman and Terrance Deal's Four Framework Approach to Leadership: political, human resources, symbolic, structural.  We ran through a list of questions, checking responses and then scoring to help us identify where we fall in the Framework.

I borrowed from a slideshow to get more information:
Bolman and Deal's Four Framework consists of:
  • Structural Framework - Social architect whose leadership style is analysis and design - focus on structure, strategy, environment, implementation, experimentation, and adaptation.
  • Human Resource Framework - Catalyst and servant whose leadership style is support, advocate, and empowerment - visible and accessible; they empower, increase participation, support, share information, and move decision making down into the organization.
  • Political Framework - Advocate, whose leadership style is coalition and building - clarify what they want and what they can get; they assess the distribution of power and interests; they build linkages to other stakeholders; use persuasion first, then use negotiation and coercion only if necessary.
  • Symbolic Framework - Prophet, whose leadership style is inspiration, view organizations as a stage or theater to play certain roles and give impressions; these leaders use symbols to capture attention; they try to frame experience by providing plausible interpretations of experiences; they discover and communicate a vision.
It was especially interesting to me, since I had just done a mini Myers-Briggs test when I was in Austin with my High School friends. They both came out pretty similar. I came out as a Structural Framework kinda person - with Political coming up closely behind. We had to graph our type and my graph was a bit warped. Hmmm is this a theme with me?

I feel that I'm more of a people person then these self-tests keep reflecting. Hmm. I evidently come off more Pat Bullock than I ever knew. Under this crusty exterior, believe me, there is a very gooey inner core. I am highly empathetic! Of course that does not lessen my expectations from ya'll! I think you can do good things and expect nothing less. I can deal with the aftermath quite well, once the dust settles, if things don't go well.

I do realize I am a very structural person. I need to know what the rules are. Moving targets drive me wild! When I worked at Gits Manufacturing, I would prepare 250 parts as ordered by an automotive customer - there was a lead time of 9 months to put the parts together. At the last minute the customer would change the order. It drove me nuts! Just tell me the rules - and I will figure out how to deal with them, or if I want to quit the game.

I also trend as Political - creating coalitions. I was lucky in this job in that I already had been friends with many of the key players in the industry. Our office has been a difficult place for me to form coalitions - simply because I don't do what anyone else does. Plus I don't have peers my age in my section that are women. I tend to go with the flow.

Many of the people that I work with are Structural. Not surprising since I work with engineers and other scientific, process oriented type people. Later that day we broke out into groups with the various types of frameworks spread throughout the groups. I'm not sure we solved anything - but it was an interesting exercise and the food was good. And we taxpayers didn't have to pay for it. The food I mean. Your trash paid for our part of the day as it pays for our programs.

While I don't think personalities or people can be parsed easily into categories, I do believe exercises such as this have value. It helps us understand our own tenancies and others'. We are all leaders - at work, in our families and yes, even at play or in social situations. Someone has to decide what restaurant we're eating at tonight!
Structural people do have creative sides - they made this kitty litter dessert and the brownies below
 

Monday, September 26, 2011

Age 53, maturity age 10....

Some people will never grow up! And I'm one of them. I made myself laugh today. Several times. By myself. Just now again....

Today the two sections that I work in - Solid Waste and Financial and Business Assistance (FABA) of Iowa DNR met at Walnut Woods to do a Strategic Planning session  - all day. The leader of the Land Quality Bureau, Brian Tormey lead us in several exercises to help set up how we'll move forward through the next several months. In order to get started, we did an "ice breaker".

The purpose of the little exercises was to solve 30 questions - figuring out what numbers the statements stood for (the answers were the numbers 1-30). Our group of some 22 or so people was broken up into three groups. I was with Becky, Laura, Theresa, Matt, Kathleen, Jeff - and our FABA supervisor Jen chimed in once in a while. The questions started out easy - stuff like "A typical round of golf is this many holes."  Answer 18.

They quickly got hard! There were things like the square root of 256. And the British race track is the M____.

But the one that got me laughing at me and my big juvie mouth was: The number of planets in the solar system is? I asked Jeff, who was sitting beside me the answer. He said - 9. Without thinking I said, "Did you include Uranus?" It still makes me laugh. Out loud. Jen heard me say it and laughed too. Sometimes I can't help myself...it's like a little evil witty person lives inside me. Turned out the answer was 8 - they tossed Pluto out not so long ago...not Jeff's anus...I mean Uranus.

We grilled burgers and brats (supplied by the managers) for lunch along with potluck. I took calico beans that I put together yesterday with Paul's help and lots of good salads and desserts. It was all very good.

Walnut Woods was a cool place to meet - though the wooden benches got a bit hard after a while. And the walnuts hitting the wooden roof of the lodge was a bit distracting at times. Glad one didn't hit me in the head (though I prolly deserved it..) The walnuts reminded me of our old house - the walnut tree and the shed out back. Bam!

Let's hope the day away from the office translates to a great plan for our two sections.

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On a totally unrelated note, my sis Bets sent us this cute framed print last week, as it made her think of Odie, my darling dachshund. Thanks sis!